About The Philosophical Widow

I decided to start this blog as an extension of my posts on my husband’s Caring Bridge site, with the encouragement of friends and visitors to his Caring Bridge site. After he died, leaving me in stunned disbelief, I kept writing on the site, having decided to close that site and continue my writing in a blog once the Shiva candle burned out.
I was a ballet professional, working as a dancer, teacher and choreographer. I had my first attack of Multiple Sclerosis at the age of 20, but was not diagnosed until the age of 45, when it turned into the Secondary Progressive form.
My husband at the time was more victimized by my disease than I was and left me. I changed careers to one in human rights and justice advocacy and consulting.
At age 52, struggling with SPMS, I was introduced to the love of my life. The introduction was innocent, a dear friend was concerned about the disease-modifying drug I was on, and introduced me to a neurologist (and attorney) who also had SPMS for an informal consult. We went from hello to forever…
My forever was shattered when he recently died from complications due to his MS, though I will love him forever and will always consider myself married to him.
My blog will talk of our incredible love story, and of my learning how to navigate life without him. He had beat the odds so many times that it didn’t occur to me that he would ever die. I was totally unprepared, and since he also never believed he would die, he left his affairs in disarray.
This blog will give (unsolicited) advice based on my experience of trying to get our affairs in order. I will write about this incredible love story and my attempts to move forward on my own, yet never without his spirit. I will dedicate my life to keeping his amazing legacy alive, and to carry on his work.
I love to write and use my writing as a therapeutic tool for me, and to inform anyone who might be interested.
If this sounds boring, I infuse my writing with humor. Humor is the key to survival.

Through this blog you will come to know all about my beloved late husband, David Ketroser, M.D., J.D., M.A in Bioethics (#Overachiever). You will also learn about me, our love story, and how this incredible love changed me.
#love #death #humor #writing #philosophy #trauma #survival

Published by The Philosophical Widow

Only some seven+ years after meeting and marrying my soulmate, I became a reluctant widow. It is a surreal experience, especially because my beloved husband was indomitable. There were so many health scares, times that medically he should not have survived, but beat the odds and went on to do better and better work, not to mention being a loving life partner. I changed dramatically during our time together...in him I found the safety and true love that I had always craved. This sense of safety and unconditional love allowed me to do the deep trauma work necessary to heal and become whole. I came to possess a strength that I never knew I had. I learned what true happiness felt like. I had it all in this amazing man. All except time, that is. “We loved each other enough for a lifetime, but tragically only had a moment.” Yet I am full of gratitude for having had the opportunity to love and be loved by this man. He was my world. Now I must learn who I am without being at his side and without him at mine. My only regret is that we did not have forever...

One thought on “About The Philosophical Widow

  1. Oh, I’m so sorry for what happened to you and many best wishes for your late, loving husband. RIP. I can feel your emotions and feelings and will try to help you come back to life as soon as possible.

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