I decided to start this blog as an extension of my posts on my husband’s Caring Bridge site, with the encouragement of friends and visitors to his Caring Bridge site. After he died, leaving me in stunned disbelief, I kept writing on the site, having decided to close that site and continue my writing in a blog once the Shiva candle burned out.
I was a ballet professional, working as a dancer, teacher and choreographer. I had my first attack of Multiple Sclerosis at the age of 20, but was not diagnosed until the age of 45, when it turned into the Secondary Progressive form.
My husband at the time was more victimized by my disease than I was and left me. I changed careers to one in human rights and justice advocacy and consulting.
At age 52, struggling with SPMS, I was introduced to the love of my life. The introduction was innocent, a dear friend was concerned about the disease-modifying drug I was on, and introduced me to a neurologist (and attorney) who also had SPMS for an informal consult. We went from hello to forever…
My forever was shattered when he recently died from complications due to his MS, though I will love him forever and will always consider myself married to him.
My blog will talk of our incredible love story, and of my learning how to navigate life without him. He had beat the odds so many times that it didn’t occur to me that he would ever die. I was totally unprepared, and since he also never believed he would die, he left his affairs in disarray.
This blog will give (unsolicited) advice based on my experience of trying to get our affairs in order. I will write about this incredible love story and my attempts to move forward on my own, yet never without his spirit. I will dedicate my life to keeping his amazing legacy alive, and to carry on his work.
I love to write and use my writing as a therapeutic tool for me, and to inform anyone who might be interested.
If this sounds boring, I infuse my writing with humor. Humor is the key to survival.
Through this blog you will come to know all about my beloved late husband, David Ketroser, M.D., J.D., M.A in Bioethics (#Overachiever). You will also learn about me, our love story, and how this incredible love changed me.
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